I have come across many people in my almost 50 years on the planet. They have been neighbors, schoolmates, coworkers, and others I have met during social gatherings.
Sometimes these people got along with me, while this wasn’t the case at other times. Though some people will adore you immediately, others might not feel the same way.
What can you do when a person doesn’t like you? How can you deal with them?
Try to understand them
If you can find out why the person doesn’t like you, you might be able to adjust your words or actions to better align with what they want to hear or see. If you don’t understand what they don’t like about you, you’ll have a hard time changing your behavior.
Of course, don’t change things about yourself merely because someone else wants you to change. Only make changes that are beneficial to you and your well-being.
Try to change their mind
You might believe someone doesn’t like you due to a misunderstanding, or maybe it’s something you did where you were wrong but that you can correct.
In cases like these, you can take the time to try and change someone’s mind. If you owe them an apology, give it to them. Just make sure your apology is sincere.
Don’t say something because you think it’s what someone wants to hear, but give a heartfelt apology that explains your actions.
Try to talk to them
Talking to someone and getting them to open up to you can help. It will let you understand them a little more, plus it may change their mind or their opinion about you.
Though they might be reluctant to talk to you, as you already know they don’t like you, that doesn’t mean that you can’t be the bigger person and make an effort so that the two of you can get along.
Ignoring them may be the best course of action
Former friends, your neighbors, or even family that don’t like you are probably a little easier to ignore than coworkers.
If you don’t have any obligations to the person, and you don’t have to work with them, then ignoring them may be the best course of action. Ignoring a person doesn’t mean acting as if they aren’t there, but rather not letting the way they feel about you upset you.
Accept that not everyone will like you
Being cordial and respectful to others is one of the most important things you can do in life. It’s okay to accept that not everyone is going to like you, but not liking someone does not mean that you aren’t able to get along.
Do your best to be calm and collected when dealing with a person that doesn’t like you. Hopefully, in time their opinion will change. If it doesn’t, at least you know you acted responsibly.
In an ideal world, everyone would love each other, and we would all live peacefully. Unfortunately, that’s much easier said than done. At least we can make an effort to have people like us, and if they don’t, consider it their loss.
Originally published on June 28, 2022 at https://upjourney.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-do-not-like-you?utm_source=ReviveOldPost&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=ReviveOldPost