How to Respond to Someone Who Is Projecting
I have noticed many people projecting or displaying their feelings as if they were someone else. Though it’s most likely not being done on purpose, as it’s frequently done as a defense mechanism, we’ve probably all been guilty of projecting at some point in our lives.
What can we do or how can we respond if someone is projecting?
Get to the root of the issue
If you believe that someone is projecting, it can help get to the root of the issue.
For example, if your friend makes a mistake, as we all do, and immediately blames someone else for their actions, they may be projecting. Attempt to explain to the person that they aren’t in trouble for their mistake and that it is unnecessary to place blame.
If they don’t feel as if they will get in trouble, they may be more apt to be reasonable with you.
Be encouraging and supportive
When someone negatively projects onto someone else, they may just need a person to lean on. By letting them know that you can be that person, they may push their negativity to the side.
It may take time for them to realize that you are there to help them, so make sure to give them the time they need.
Speak with the person more in-depth and find out what they feel
Sometimes people project because they aren’t good at communicating. You can speak with the person more in-depth and find out what they really feel and possibly even why they feel that way.
Then together, you can communicate so that there is a greater understanding, which may help the projection subside.
Simply walk away
Sometimes, another person’s projection might be too much. Those are the times when you might need to simply walk away.
Regardless of who is projecting, make sure your departure from the situation is completed:
- Professionally
- Calmly
- Appropriately
Kindly excuse yourself by saying, “I apologize, but I need to step away. I do not feel comfortable at the moment.”
It’s always acceptable to protect yourself and your feelings. Whether someone is purposely projecting to hurt you or doing it unknowingly, make sure to put yourself and your feelings first.
You do not need to be projected upon to a point where you feel uncomfortable or threatened.
Originally posted 6-22-22 on https://upjourney.com/how-to-respond-to-someone-who-is-projecting.